Are Rhonda and Pat Still Together from Married at First Sight Season 19?
Rhonda and Pat are not together anymore. They stayed married for about nine months after Decision Day, then broke up. They confirmed the split at the Season 19 reunion special. They shared that the relationship faded after Pat went on a solo trip to Europe and came back feeling unhappy with how things were going in their marriage. Their time together did not end in a big public fight. It ended because both of them felt their needs were not getting met over time.
For viewers, this can feel a bit sad because they seemed like one of the more mature pairs at first. They connected fast at the wedding and looked comfortable together. But once the cameras followed them into daily life, deeper issues started to show. Those same issues slowly carried over into their off camera marriage life too.
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What happened after Decision Day?
On Decision Day they both chose to stay married. Pat had doubts and almost said no, but the experts pushed him to think about the good parts of the relationship. Rhonda also wanted to keep trying even though she felt frustrated with some patterns. So they left the show as a married couple and tried to build a real life together. For a while they made it work as husband and wife.
They stayed together for about nine months after filming. During that period they traveled and lived together as a normal couple. Pat later took a solo trip to Europe. When he came back home, they went about ten days without sex. That gap became a breaking point for him. He felt rejected and angry. Rhonda felt pressured and turned off by what she saw as his insecurity. A dinner conversation after that trip led to the breakup.
Why Rhonda and Pat Broke Up?
At the reunion Pat said he did not feel his physical needs were met. He wanted more intimacy and said that this had been building for a long time. In his words, once his attraction switched off, it did not come back. He did not want to repeat mistakes from his first marriage where he ignored early red flags. For him, the lack of sex after the trip was a sign that things were not right anymore.
Rhonda shared a very different side. She said she pulled back from intimacy because his insecurity made her feel less attracted. She tried to explain that intimacy for her needed more emotional safety and feeling heard. She felt he wanted a wife role filled instead of a real emotional connection. She also mentioned that when he focused too much on his own needs, she struggled to feel close. These feelings had already started during filming and never fully went away.
Their problems did not appear out of nowhere after filming. During the show, Rhonda often said she felt unheard. She said Pat talked about himself a lot and did not ask enough follow up questions about her life. That made her wonder if he was truly curious about her or just liked having someone beside him. She brought this up more than once in different episodes.
Pat said he felt like he was walking on eggshells. He worried that if he spoke up or tried to relate with his own stories, she would see it as him taking over the conversation. There were moments where he shut down because he did not want to be accused of being selfish or not listening. Even with help from the experts, those patterns stayed under the surface. The couple would fix one disagreement but the bigger communication style clash remained.
Where things stand now?
Today Rhonda and Pat are divorced. They do not have a romantic relationship. They are no longer a married couple in real life. At the same time they are not enemies. Reports say they still follow each other on social media and even leave friendly comments sometimes. That suggests there is some mutual respect even after the breakup.
Both seem to have moved on with their own lives. Pat appears focused on his work and personal happiness. Rhonda seems focused on her career and her own growth. Their story on the show gave them attention but off the show they are two people who tried marriage again later in life and then chose to step away when it no longer felt right. No fairytale ending just two adults who realized they were not the right long term match.
